When a Forum Partner Goes AWOL

So, what happens when your co-owning partner goes AWOL?

When I started HeroLounge about 6 weeks ago, someone offered to be my partner. It was great, because he was an upstanding Netizen. He threw some money into the project and so did I. I worked furiously hard on the content and organization of the board, while he handled the sitemaps, and paid posting.

Then after 4 weeks, he dropped off the face of the earth as far as I was concerned. What should I do? I knew his baby girl was previously sick in the hospital, so how much time should I give him to contact me? I had his phone number, but the last time I called him he seemed irked by it. (more like his wife)

What makes matters worse is that the site is located on his dedicated server, and I don’t have any of the pass codes. What’s an admin to do? I sent him an email and two PM’s… one on the board, and one on the other board we met on.

It turns out he was terribly sick with pneumonia, but wasn’t too sick to have his wife start up TWO, count ’em, TWO forums for him during his AFK sickness. I felt betrayed; I mean, she could have sent me a PM or something.

Word to the wise: Pick your partners carefully. Be sure to trade passwords and keep no secrets. Create a protocol, and don’t be afraid to call each other by telephone (or Skype). The project should be the highest priority, like a child. Be considerate of others, and perhaps create a private blog on your staff section. Give at least one member of your family or a friend your partner’s email address and explicit instructions to contact them in case you can not fulfill your duties to them.

Please, I would appreciate comments and your scary partner stories. Waiting to hear from you.

Why another blog about forums? Great question, we are just a couple of forum owners who have built ours forums from the ground-up. We just wanted a blog for real life forum owners, with real life experiences.

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  • Adam November 29, 2006, 1:02 pm

    I have yet to have this problem but that is because my partner is somebody who I have known for over 10 years and I am related to him. If I ever had to venture out into a partner who I didn't know I know I would get his phone number like you did. Plus I would tell him if he didn't want you calling why did you give it him?